AlbAny GAzette-times Friday, January 3, 2020 B5 1 DEAR ABBY: I have been happily married to my dar-ling husband for 20 years. The problem is his sister. When we first met, she asked my husband if I was because very outgoing and affectionate. In the early years, and until about six years ago, she would berate me with abusive crit- icism. In most in- stances, her com- ments were inac- curate.
If I tried to overlook her actions and have a good relationship, she would soon find something else to criticize. I am normally an kind of person when it comes to confrontations and forget them quickly. Thankfully her abuse has finally stopped. But now having trust issues because every time in the past when I let my guard down to mend the relationship, lash out and put me down again. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
WARY IN TEXAS DEAR WARY: One would think that during the time your sister-in-law was sniping at you, your husband would have stepped in and told his sis- ter to put her knives away. After suffering through 14 years of her emotional battery, no wonder you have trust issues where concerned. Intelligent person that you are, likely you always will have them, so stop blaming yourself for it. Continue being the outgo- ing and affectionate person you always have been, and keep your guard up because what healthy people have to do when dealing with someone like her. DEAR ABBY: I love my won- derful neighbors of 28 years.
They are 10 years younger than my parents. They have been like a second set of parents to me. My concern is for their health. They are in their 60s and 70s, but nei- ther one goes to the doctor. The wife went 20-plus years ago and decided never to return after they prescribed diabetes and blood pressure medication for her.
More recently, she can no longer leave the house because she has injured her arthritic knee so badly. She refuses to get it checked and claims it will heal. (She diagnosed herself via Dr. Google.) Her intelligent adult daughter is aware of all of this. I know this is a choice people make, but at this point sure just anxiety that is keeping her from getting the medical help she needs.
missing her garden, her grandchildren and grocery shopping, so sure she want to spend the rest of her life like this. Her husband has no influence either and is picking up what she no longer can do. I have tried encouraging her to seek advice, but pushed her so hard as to push her away. What should I do? SCARED FOR THEM IN MASSACHU- SETTS DEAR SCARED: If anyone could do anything, it would have to be the husband and her daughter. I assume you have pointed out to your neighbor that with medical help she could heal more quickly, and also that there is something called pre- ventive medicine that can help people avoid becoming seriously ill.
Because you have talked until you are blue in the face and still been able to get through, my advice is to love her while you have her. dear abby is written by abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact dear abby at www.dearabby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los angeles, Ca 90069. DEAR DR.
ROACH: My husband had a kidney stone, and the doctor used shock waves to clear it up. Now the doctor says he needs to take fresh lemon juice twice a day, all his life. None of the other men in the community center with stones have been recommended lemon juice. We would like your opinion. M.C.
ANSWER: Lemon juice is tart because of its high concentration of citric acid. Citric acid is essentially turned into bicarbonate in the body, and the excess bicarbonate is excreted in the kidney. This raises the pH of the urine and makes it harder for both calcium stones and uric acid stones to form. Citric acid itself in the urine what been metabolized binds to oxalate, preventing it from making calcium oxalate stones. The addition of citric acid is particularly helpful in peo- ple who have a diet with lower amounts of animal protein, so animal protein should be modest and plant protein emphasized in your diet.
Potassium citrate tablets are commonly prescribed to people with recurrent kidney stones. However, lemon juice is also proven effective at reducing stone formation. Lime juice, orange juice and melon juice are other good sources of citric acid, but avoid grapefruit and cran- berry juice, as they are high in oxalates. The potassium, found in both fruit and the tablet, is synergistic at reducing stone risk. Plenty of water is always important for any person with kidney stones.
I do worry about the teeth in consuming very concentrated acid like lemon juice, so I usually prescribe the tablet, but 4 ounces of juice daily is certainly a rea- sonable option. DEAR DR. ROACH: I am a 71-year-old woman physically active and of normal weight. currently on 20 mg of simvastatin and have started taking aspirin, 81 mg three times a week. I have white coat hypertension with home blood pressure measurements around I have no diabetes, and my cholesterol is 194 with HDL of 92 and LDL of 92.
An incidental finding on a recent X-ray notes calcium on my aorta. Is further testing, such as a CT angiogram, warranted? M.P. ANSWER: The aorta is the largest blood vessel in the body, and calcium, which blocks X-rays, can be seen in large blood vessels. People with calcium in blood vessels are more likely to have plaque and blockages in those blood vessels. Healthy cholesterol levels do not rule out the possibility of coronary artery blockages.
For a person with no symptoms but who is suspected to have blockages in the aorta or coro- nary vessels, the doctor generally has two options: do further diag- nostic testing to increase the cer- tainty of the diagnosis, or treat the patient medically as though she has coronary artery disease. That would mean prescribing a statin drug more commonly a higher-potency drug like ator- vastatin or rosuvastatin nowa- days and aspirin. Beta blockers and ACE inhibitors are also commonly used, but your blood pressure is nearly optimal as it is now. Still, many cardiologists would still use a low dose of a beta blocker like metoprolol. Since more aggressive thera- pies like surgery or angioplasty and stent placement are unlikely to have a beneficial effect on your life expectancy, proceeding with treatment as though you already had coronary disease makes a great deal of sense to me.
Nonetheless, a CT angiogram is an excellent test to make the diagnosis of coronary artery blockages. It has the disadvan- tages of cost, radiation exposure, and dye load (which might dam- age your kidneys), but the advan- tage of providing more certainty about the diagnosis. dr. roach regrets that he is unable to answer individual letters, but will incorporate them in the column whenever possible. readers may email questions to ToyourGood- or send mail to 628 Virginia Orlando, FL 32803.
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you have the knowledge and training to understand what you are dealing with. Tonight: To the wee hours. TAURUS (April 20-May 20) you generally base your actions on sound thinking and logic. Suddenly you swing into the intuitive realm, tossing others into confusion. you might explain why, yet others might not get it.
The vision of you is firmly ingrained in their thoughts. Tonight: Go with the flow. GEMINI (May 21-June 20) reach out for a loved one at a distance or a friend who seems to be able to impact others with care. He or she will want to join in on your project, making it even better. Listen to sugges- tions.
Tonight: Let it all hang out. CANCER (June 21-July 22) under- stand where a boss or authority figure is coming from, but also answer to your needs. Perhaps you do not want to accept any more responsibility. Be direct in how you handle this matter. To- night: Going to the wee hours.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22) The Lion roars at the idea of an offbeat adventure. you have been giving some thought to moving in a new direction. you seem ready to accept more risk. rest assured that you still have a good sense of when to say Tonight: Trying something new.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) you might be think- ing in terms of growth and more dynamic challenges involving a key person in your life. What might be difficult is to persuade the other party to be a positive team member! Tonight: do not postpone a chat. LIBRA (Sept.
23-Oct. 22) your ability to get past a problem causes you to be very popular. Others often want your opinion, or so they say. They also like your innate charm and clear thinking. Tonight: ac- cept an intriguing invitation.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21) out for a co- worker or a pal you see once in a while. This person would appreciate you touching base. recognize what a stalwart func- tion this person serves in your life, even if you are not close; you depend on that or interchange.
Tonight: you need your beauty sleep. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21) reach out for a loved one or a special friend whom you often have a hoot with. inevitably, the two of you serve as muses for each other when it comes down to enjoying life and making the most out of the moment.
Tonight: The party goes on. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) Stay anchored, know- ing full well your limitations. at times you would prefer a calm, solid environment.
you do your best thinking in that situation. if you need to clear an issue off your chest, do so quickly. To- night: as you like. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb.
18) you are likely to tell it like it is. Someone could be most offended by your version of the truth. This person does not see the situation in the same light as you do. Be careful about pushing your view. Some- one could find you most offen- sive.
Tonight: Hang out. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20) indulge yourself. This holiday season has been hectic. if you can, do buy that one gift you did not get.
invite friends for late-day munchies to catch up on the week and Christmas. Tonight: if others want to treat, let them. BORN TODAY Quarterback Eli Manning (1981), actor, director Mel Gibson (1956), entertainer Victor Borge (1909) Jacqueline Bigar is on the inter- net at www.jacquelinebigar.com. (c) 2019 by King Features Syndi- cate inc..
